Really wild —

November 2, 2015 admin

Two moms were commiserating about the challenge of raising teenagers.

“My middle-schooler’s classmates were really wild. It wasn’t easy being part of that crowd, and it just gets harder now in high school.”

“OK, I hear you,” said the other mom. “But let me ask you something. Were those kids really wild or were their parents really permissive?”

“Yes, you’re right, they were and still are permissive, and I just can’t go along with that anymore,” said the first mom.  ”What’s really tough is many of those parents were my good friends. And now that I am making different choices as a mom, it’s really, really hard.”

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+REFLECTION

It is very hard, but kudos to the first mom in this true story for having the courage to make a bold change in her parenting. If we want to raise productive, resilient, mentally- and physically-well kids, we have to be honest with ourselves about the parenting forces at work in our kids’ schools and social circle.  As Race to Nowhere director Vicki Abelese  says, “We have to see the child in front of us,” and that includes their social reality. We have to take the long view, establish strong age-appropriate boundaries and attention-getting consequences when negative choices are made. And we have to remember to share our struggles because we really are are all in this together.

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